I met my friend Danielle quite a while ago. In fact, I love relationships that I can’t remember when or how they began- they just ‘are’. Danielle just had her second child and is making the adjustment of going from one to two. I am always fascinated by this transition as I don’t really feel like we had time to ‘ease’ into one to three. She’s been kind enough today to guest post for me and discuss a topic I can easily relate to myself. Our two year old twins are revolting against the bedtime machine- much like her two year old. Please welcome Danielle from her lovely blog Sweet Serendipity.
Help…my two year old is holding me hostage!
For two years now we’ve had a great schedule, dinner, bath, bed. Our bedtime routine consists of reading stories and singing a few songs. It usually takes about a half hour, I kiss her good night, and she goes to bed. Until recently…
Now I need my own hostage negotiating team just to get me out of there. I am literally held hostage at bedtime by tears, screaming, begging, pleading, and demanding me to (in her words) “ay down”. From the moments we enter her room the door is slammed shut behind me. The second I go to stand up, she immediately throws her arms around my neck like a baby monkey, so I can’t leave. One day she even tried sky diving from the foot of the bed. My Superman catch mid fall was amazing!
The problem is even if I lay with her she doesn’t fall asleep. She talks to me about her day, sings to me, counts, reads, asks me to rub her back…basically anything to distract me from the fact that I am trying to make her go to bed. She leaves me no choice, but to let her cry it out, which is heartbreaking. However, her crying only lasts for a few minutes and she immediately drifts off to bed, validating the fact that she was completely exhausted and ready.
It’s difficult for me to escape, since it’s often her mommy alone time. She has been adjusting pretty well to sharing me with her new sister and I value our precious bedtime moments. It was simply much easier when she accepted the fact that it was bedtime, kissed me good night and went peacefully to sleep. I am hoping that it is a phase, just another wonderful thing that comes with the territory of being two. I just hope it doesn’t last long, or else I may need to call in back up.
Do your children test bedtime boundaries? What are some of their bedtime fiascoes?
Danielle is an mama of two beautiful girls, who is adjusting to life with a toddler and a new infant. She’s currently on maternity leave, but will be returning to work just in time for state testing. Danielle writes about her love for her children, and juggling full time working with full time mommy hood, all while trying to maintain a healthy relationship with her husband. Any mama can relate to her blog at:
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