And All We Could Do Was Laugh: On Being Two

by farrah on October 7, 2013 · 12 comments

We had a bunch of fun things planned for the weekend. Stuff beyond what we normally do around town- and things that involved being outside enjoying the turn of the season. We thought- ‘Wow. We’re really good parents, right? I mean, look at this cool stuff we have to do with our two year olds and four year old. They’re gonna love it, right?’ Yeah. No. It was actually so obnoxious that at one point yesterday all my husband and I could do was laugh, and laugh really, really hard.

There is no standard kids in the patch photo this year.

In their defense, in this house the boys have ‘the coughs’. I call it ‘the coughs’ because it really hasn’t (thankfully) escalated into anything worse. It’s an annoying cough that keeps them up at night- which in turn makes them cranky the next day. It’s loads of fun.

Outings That Are Supposed To Be Fun, But Not

Saturday we had a really interesting outing at a monastery/brewery about a 6 miles from our house. It was an event planned by our expat club and there were about 20 of us. The setting was incredible, and the beer divine (I’ll be writing about it this week). The boys weren’t the happiest they had ever been, but they did really well.

Yesterday was the deal breaker. I was sent a link by a fellow expat to an actual pumpkin patch not too far away. Yesterday they were hosting an event for kids in the name of all things pumpkin. Pretty cool considering I have been craving some pumpkin-y fall goodness over here where it doesn’t appear to have really caught on. Wouldn’t you know it- as soon as we got there it was meltdown city. One thing after another triggered a fit. A whine-fest. It was absolutely so ridiculous that all my husband and I cold do was laugh. I mean, how awful are we!? How dare we try to do something fun with our kids!

We bought the boys mini-pumpkins, B had his face painted, there were pony (donkey?) rides, but no. Nothing could save us from the turn this trip had taken. L was flailing and wailing and demanding to go  and it was just the point where you give up and say fine. We’re outta here.

So we left. We took them to a pancake house for lunch. It’s a fun place. There’s cool stuff there. But alas-  there wasn’t a playground and that was the tipping point for C. L meanwhile was whining and crying over who knows what, ignoring the beautiful day, ignoring the fact that we were sititng outside in some really cool chairs on a lovely patio sipping apple juice and coffee- when he tips over my husband’s cup. It spills all over the saucer and the table and the floor (no one else thankfully) and it was like WHAT IS GOING ON HERE.


We ate- a lunch of powdered sugar pancakes- and they all got prizes (toys come with the kid entrees at pancake houses) but that still wasn’t good enough. We gave up and left- it was after 1pm and the boys needed a nap. Once home they slept and afterwards the plan was to hit the playground. NOT THE PLAYGROUND!!! AYIEEAAAAYYYYYYAHHHH! They all went insane.

Laughing Because Otherwise You Cry

So we laughed. I mean, what else can you do at that point? You do fun things and yet it’s not enough. There’s nothing you can do to quell the storm that is an (almost) three-year old tantrum due to lack of sleep. And here is where moms of twins + have it even more interesting because you’re not just blessed with one child in a dissolve of irrational emotions- you have two (or more). It’s not the most fun you’ll ever have, I promise.

They’re turning three next week. So much of it is the age/lack of sleep/etc – this I know. But holy wow. It’s truly something to see a person lose it for no logical reason. Sometimes kids run on emotion- there is no logic. And all you can do try to keep calm. So you laugh.

How was your weekend? Hopefully better than ours. L slept well last night- and was a new kid this morning so there’s hope yet.

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Jennifer F- American Mom in Bordeaux October 7, 2013 at 10:20 am

lol!!! I so remember those days!! Well – truthfully we still have THOSE days! They just turn into whining tween drama mixed with who can bug each other the most kind of times. I love that you share it all – I can’t tell you the number of times, I have planned a fun outing and even on our way there…we have to have “silent time” in the car as the 3 of them start in with the drama! Sometimes you just can’t win! Luckily, I will say, it does get better and those moments are of shorter duration. Hang in there!


2 farrah October 7, 2013 at 1:44 pm

Hahhaha! Silent time on the way to an adventure. I love it. And truthfully I can easily foresee this. My biggest concern is down the road- the boys are squeezed 3 in car seats in our little euro car- and I am like- THIS will not fly when they are in the hitting kicking biting stage 🙂


3 Julia October 7, 2013 at 12:36 pm

My son is almost 3 so I totally understand the tantrums and the crying and whining all too well. We went to a children’s museum and a rodeo this weekend. After we left the museum I asked him if he had fun, he said, “I wanted to stay longer”. all I could do was laugh.


4 farrah October 7, 2013 at 1:45 pm

Oh that’s exactly it. EXACTLY! It was the best day ever! Says the child. Which day- that one right there??? 🙂


5 Leighann October 7, 2013 at 1:24 pm

we still experience this on a regular basis. I can relate! But that’s what adventure is all about.


6 farrah October 7, 2013 at 1:46 pm

So true. So true. And this is also why kids are so freaking hilarious.


7 Chamisa October 7, 2013 at 1:33 pm

Oohh, I can totally relate! At least you were somewhat near home. The worst is when this happens and you’re traveling!


8 farrah October 7, 2013 at 1:46 pm

You are EXACTLY right. I don’t want to tempt fate here and say what I am about to say… so you’ll just have to use your imagination 🙂


9 Mrs. Chasing the Donkey October 7, 2013 at 4:29 pm

I am on edge just thinking about this. I honestly have no idea how you manage 3 boys. I barely make it through each day with one. My hat off to you Mrs. Giggles.
PS: I am so jealous you have an expat club… really jealous!


10 Denise October 8, 2013 at 2:44 am

Having a 14 year old, 3 year old and a 4 month old in the house we have just about given up. It always seems like our well planned, ‘this is the stuff childhood memories are made of’ activities end up in disaster so there is a lot of laughing or else we’d cry moments here too.


11 Denise October 8, 2013 at 2:44 am

Having a 14 year old, 3 year old and a 4 month old in the house we have just about given up. It always seems like our well planned, ‘this is the stuff childhood memories are made of’ activities end up in disaster so there is a lot of laughing or else we’d cry moments here too.


12 Robbie October 8, 2013 at 6:30 pm

My kids are older and STILL have meltdowns due to lack of sleep or being hungry. My weekend was filled with a work training and happy hour so pretty good I’d say.


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