Into The Unknown: What’s Ahead in 2014

by farrah on December 29, 2013 · 17 comments

Like most of you, at this very moment I’m thinking long and hard about what’s ahead in 2014. With Christmas ’13 behind us (lots of barf=glad it’s over) we’re at that point in the year where we get a ‘clean’ slate and everyone starts talking about resolutions, bucket lists and so on. I purposely avoid reading those kinds of posts and memes because who doesn’t already know what they say?

New Years Eve 2011 London

That in mind, I decided this year that there will not be any resolution-making going on here. I’m also not going to be touting any mantras or changing my email signature to some inspirational quote. We have big fish to fry and I don’t think making resolutions, etc. will get us where we want to be.

Which is…. where exactly?

What’s Next

Our expat contract is up at the end of October of 2014. At that time the job that my husband took is technically finished and we have the next step ahead of us. Our hope is that we might have an idea where we’re going and what we’ll be doing in the first few months of 2014- because um, that’s kind of important.

What do we want to do, exactly? Truth 100%- I just don’t know. I felt like when we came here I’d never want to leave and fight (as much as a wife can influence the powers that be) to stay as long as possible. With our kids happy and doing well in the school, our home situation secure and stable- it seems kind of crazy to just throw all of that out the window and jump ahead into the unknown, be that another expat assignment or move back to the US.

But if we came back to the US- there’s no sure bet there either. We would not return to our former home (which is currently rented out, and we’d like to sell at some point) or the area, for that matter. The job my husband had there is behind us. It is time to move ahead, keep going forward. Don’t look back but look at what’s next.

The unknown

As much as half of me finds that absolutely exhilarating- the other half of me finds it daunting. We have three small kids to worry about. Sure, they’re probably the most adaptable of the bunch, but that doesn’t mean as a mom I can’t worry. I like not knowing what life holds around the corner- to be surprised and delighted by change and an adventure. But still. Sometimes, when all seems at peace and balance.. isn’t it nice to sit back and enjoy it?

So I don’t know what’s going to happen next. I think embracing that will probably be the only thing that keeps me sane and content. Life is good- we’ve been very fortunate and are taking full advantage of the country we live in and as much as we can of surrounding Europe. No regrets. Whatever happens I trust us and am ready to write the next chapter.

Let go

I know in the beginning of this post I wrote how cliché it is to write and read a bunch of fluffy ‘You should’ blog posts regarding the coming new year. BUT (isn’t there always a but?) my friend Kiley at Cherry Blossoms {the blog} linked this and it caught my eye. You can read the whole list of 20 Things To Let Go Of Before The New Year here via MindBodyGreen.

These are easily the ‘things’ that resonated with me the most:

Let go of feeling guilty for doing what you truly want to do.- I see this as what’s right for us and our family. No guilt. Life is short. And it’s our life.

Let go of the fear of the unknown; take one small step and watch the path reveal itself.Looking at 2014, this is key for us. It’s all unknown.

Let go of worrying; worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.- This one stopped me cold. I have been a worrier my whole life. THIS.

Let go of thinking everyone else is happier, more successful or better off than you. You are right where you need to be. Your journey is unfolding perfectly for you.Don’t we all do this from time to time? Who cares about anyone else? Our life is our life and we do it best. Yours is yours. Make it YOUR best.

Let go of cheating on your future with your past. It’s time to move on and tell a new story.I carry around some old angst from a previous life. It’s pointless to drag it around anymore. See ya, baggage. 

Let go of anger toward ex lovers and family. We all deserve happiness and love; just because it is over doesn’t mean the love was wrong.- Easier said than done, but yes. Additionally, it’s important to weed the toxic people out of  your life. Facebook, etc. all have ways of removing those that aren’t true ‘friends’. JUST DO IT. Get rid of them. There’s no need for those unhappy souls. Don’t let the internet be an excuse. It’s also a tool. 

Let go of thinking you have to know how to make it happen; we learn the way on the way.- Couldn’t have said it better myself. This is true with everything, being a parent, a mother, a wife… even an expat. Never stop learning.

Sincerely wishing every single person who pops by The Three Under a fantastic 2014. I love that you choose to come here and read what’s going on with us (and me). I want to keep on interacting and sharing the fodder that is our daily lives.

 

{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Deanna December 29, 2013 at 2:38 pm

I live what you shared about things to let go of before 2014! There are some good ones in there. Hope you have a happy new year!

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2 farrah December 30, 2013 at 6:13 am

Same to you Deanna!

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3 Stephanie December 29, 2013 at 4:27 pm

Cheers to an awesome 2014 and we’ll be here rooting for you!

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4 farrah December 30, 2013 at 6:14 am

Same to you! I’ll be watching and cheering you on as well 🙂

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5 Kristen December 29, 2013 at 6:51 pm

I’m letting go and cleaning up too! I’m more than ready to clear the clutter in the basementas well as the clutter in my mind and heart.

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6 farrah December 30, 2013 at 6:15 am

That’s a good way of putting it- and I agree. I don’t even have a basement anymore- so no excuses 🙂

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7 Amanda B December 30, 2013 at 3:41 am

Whoa. That worrying one really resonated with me too! “Like praying for what you don’t want.” I’ve never heard it put that way before. Happy 2014 and thanks for sharing. I love hearing other mom’s journeys through the beautiful mayhem.

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8 farrah December 30, 2013 at 6:15 am

Oh yes- and mayhem it is! Hope you have a great 2014 too, Amanda!

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9 Kristin December 30, 2013 at 4:31 am

I’ve been working on email cleansing, and I’ve resolved to be healthier and less sedentary. I’m also clearing out the kiddie clothes that I have been saving and saving and saving.

I love the let go of cheating on your future with your past line. Lovely. And true.

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10 farrah December 30, 2013 at 6:16 am

I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to give up the baby socks. I keep finding there. But I can’t just throw them out!

Happy 2014 and best wishes to you too, Kristin.

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11 Emily Huminski December 31, 2013 at 1:46 am

I know you’ll be happy wherever you go next! And I hope to visit you there! Merry Late Christmas and Happy New Year to the Ritters!!

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12 jenny@atasteoftravel December 31, 2013 at 2:10 am

Sounds as though 2014 could be an exciting year for you…once you know what’s happening. Where are we going to meet next year? I think you should come to Australia!? Happy New Year to you all

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13 Chamisa January 1, 2014 at 3:17 pm

Happy 2014! Like you, we have some major decisions to make this year. Our contract is also up this coming fall. To go home? To stay? To forge on to another new country? With 3 kids? I’m right there with ya, asking those questions. Looking forward to hearing what might be in store for your family 🙂

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14 farrah January 3, 2014 at 10:34 am

You are EXACTLY where we are!!!! So much to be unsure about- but exciting as well! Keep me posted on your status as I’ll be curious as to what you guys do. We are still completely in the air with everything.

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15 Mrs. Chasing the Donkey January 6, 2014 at 3:15 pm

The thing about the unknown future, means that you are forced to enjoy and appreciate what you have in the now. So long as you love life and enjoy it, that’s a win in my book. I do hope that you stay, as I think its sounds like that’s what will be best. But whatever happens you’ll make the new place home, and give the boys all the love they need. HAPPY NEW YEAR

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