The Grass Is Always Greener, But Not Greener Than Hawaii

by farrah on January 13, 2014 · 7 comments

Last night my husband and I were sitting on the couch watching tv. There was nothing on, not surprisingly. We dialed in to our US cable connection and ended up catching a marathon of a show I had never seen before- ‘Hawaii Life‘. Oh my word. We watched three episodes, and by the end I was aching with a desire to live in Hawaii. We went to Kauai for part of our honeymoon. I was a strung out mess by the time we got there- but the thing I remember most was the smell of the place. There’s this heavenly fragrance in the air that seduces you into letting go- and realizing that THIS is what life is all about.

Kauai sunset

So as we watched this show, basically a House Hunters for people moving to Hawaii, we talked about what living there would be like. Of course the homes were expensive- but they weren’t like million-dollar expensive. I can see how people could do it. Hopefully they have jobs to move with, or some kind of savings set up (the one last night had a couple buying a $600K + home while she is a nurse, he a SAHD and they had two kids- how?!) or something… but it was doable I suppose. Not all homes were that expensive.

As the night wore on and we hopped from Kauai to the big island and back, and I couldn’t help but think how incredibly awesome living there would be. To live with that smell in the air. To have my windows open year round and a fresh breeze come in off the lanai.  To have the boys grow up as beach bums and learn to surf and see their beloved ocean sea life up close and real. I wanted it so bad I could feel it.

And then I looked out the window at the moon and thought to myself- but yet, here I am, living in Europe! Going on trips to cool places! Seeing history- wanting more. Always more. There’s always someplace else to see. And I realized that that’s the beauty and the curse of living. There’s always going to be more, something else, somewhere else and you can only be in the here and now and one place at one time. You can only see so much.

Of course I appreciate what we have and where we are. I love it. I am thankful for it every single day. But- there’s always going to be someplace else that you wonder about. That you daydream and think ..’Wouldn’t it be nice if…‘ sort of thing. Do the people who live in Hawaii think the same thing about the rest of us? Is living in paradise a cure for wanderlust or merely just another place to be..until something better comes along? Maybe it all depends on the individual and how happy you are. But I consider myself pretty happy, satisfied, and content. So even with all of my blessings though- I still wonder. I still ache. I still want to see and be and experience.

When I was living out in Montana, my father came to visit. He is a very practical man. He thought it was great that I was seeing such a beautiful place. But one day while I was driving him to show him where I worked- he said ‘It’s still work. Sure you’ve got the mountains behind you and all of this, but you still have to work just like everyone else.’ And that sort of depressed me. Sucked some of the magic out of where I was. He was right, of course, but I still loved what I saw every day. I still appreciated what was undiscovered. I didn’t let the drudgery of a ‘job’ overwhelm me.

So here we are, in Europe. Seeing cool things. Going great places. And living, working, going to school, raising a family. The mountains might be all around me, but life is still life. I can’t decide if that’s a good thing or a bad thing. What do you think?



{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Ann January 13, 2014 at 9:34 am

Geez… deep thoughts on a Monday!

If life is going to be life regardless of where I am (which it is), I’d rather live in a place that’s beautiful, exciting, and inspiring.


2 farrah January 13, 2014 at 9:39 am

I know it- sorry! But oh my gosh, the idea of living there stuck with me all night and has left me feeling like I need a clone to go out and do the other things I want to do!

And you’re absolutely right. Being in a place that’s beautiful, exciting and inspiring does make it all worth it. For now. 🙂


3 andrea January 13, 2014 at 8:18 pm

I am the worst – the WORST – at the whole grass is greener thing. I was dying to move back to the US from the UK, and then we got back here and I was lamenting our wonderful life in the UK. I can never win 🙂 Go where your heart takes you, and where your family is. The rest should fall into place (this is something I am trying to remind myself of, particularly right now)


4 farrah January 14, 2014 at 7:51 am

Very good words to live by! And yeah- that whole grass is greener thing. So unfair 🙂


5 Amy January 14, 2014 at 5:47 am

I saw that show once at the gym and had the same thoughts. What the hell am I doing living here when I could live there? Kauai is the only place I’ve been in Hawaii and I love it. Beach life seems so dreamy, but then I remember that I have fair skin and a family history of skin cancer. I’ll stay here where it’s cloudy. 😉

Life will be life wherever you go, but you are so lucky to be living it in a beautiful and interesting place!


6 farrah January 14, 2014 at 7:52 am

hahahhahha- yes, me too. I think cloudy is where I’m meant to be considering life in SC nearly melted me.


7 Katie E January 14, 2014 at 1:13 pm

I’m just not adventurous enough to move different places, but I so admire that! My brother and sister-in-law went to Hawaii for the first time this past summer, and they came back and said they were working on a 5 year plan to move there because they just loved it that much and felt like it was the place for them. Everyone in my family acted like they’re crazy, but I think it’s kind of cool to just see a place where you feel like you belong and go for it. But I agree – wherever you are, life is life 🙂


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